The feeling that giving brings is amazing, but when you give and give and give, you can get burned out.
If you are volunteering as a tutor at an after school program during the week, spending Saturdays working on homes of the less fortunate, working in the nursery at church Sunday morning and coaching that afternoon at a low-income soccer camp, you’re probably tired.
When you first get a giving “high” it’s easy to want to give more time, more items or more money. You feel wonderful (as you should) having helped those in need.
When that giving “high” wears off though, sometimes because of too much work or not enough “me” time, giving becomes difficult and you can get cranky. No one likes cranky givers.
It’s important to remember why you started giving in the first place ‑to help. Not to have a write-off on your taxes. Not to brag to your friends about how you’re a good person. Not to make yourself feel like you are better than others. Just to help. Help is the one thing everyone needs. No matter who you are, you can’t do everything alone. That drive to help others and in turn make the world a more loving place, is the key to successful giving.
You want to choose to help with something you’re passionate about. Maybe it’s a sports camp or possibly a sewing club. If it’s something you are passionate about, you won’t be burned out too easily.
You also need to remember that it’s OK to say “No.” It’s better to give yourself fully to something you are passionate about, then to spread yourself too thin. There are so many great organizations and programs that are in need help, but if you are already super busy with other projects, no one will be mad if you kindly say, “No.”
Everyone gets burned out some-days, even if they don’t admit it. Sometimes you just want to sit at home in your PJ’s and do nothing at all. That’s OK. Take your “me” time and think about why you help in the first place. Once you remember why you started volunteering, you’ll feel renewed and excited to start the next day.